DO YOU KNOW WHAT IT TAKES TO HAVE A GREAT MARRIAGE?
I think it's safe to say that most of us who are married, or who have been married, find it challenging - or to have been a challenge. There is always something new to learn about yourself, your partner, communicating and just getting along. Wilfred A. Peterson, the author of the poem "The Art of Marriage", was married to his wife for 58 years. Do you think maybe he learned some things from being married that long? I thought what he had to say was worth sharing. Read on.
"The Art of Marriage"
Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.
A good marriage must be created.
In the art of marriage the little things are the big things ....
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude
of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.
It is speaking words of appreciation
and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not looking ro perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience,
understanding and a sense of humour.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is finding room for the things of the spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is establishing a relationship in which the indepedence is equal,
dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.
It is discovering what marriage can be, at its best.
- by Wilfred Arlan Peterson
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